John ARTHUR White

John Arthur White

I have made this site for my Dad . My Dad passed away peacefully on
Sunday 29th October , one week short of his 67th Birthday . He died in
Darlington Memorial Hospital . He had been in their since 21st June only
home for 3 weeks in between . My dad worked hard all of his life only had
to give up work due to his health problems mainly his very painfull legs
which he had since childhood . The pain got so bad that he had to leave
work , then doctors found out he had diabeties . He visited the pain clinic
weekly , shoes made to fit his sore and swollen feet . This is where the
problem started . He started with a pressure sore on his heel he went to
get it dressed at the clinics and then he could no longer get out and walk
as far so the DN would come out and dress it . This is where the problem
started the sore got worse not treated as it should of been , these are the
words of the Surgeon . My dad went for a check up on the 21st June and
had to stay in , he had a operation on his foot to try and save it . It
didnt work , they informed us that he would need leg taking off if in the
next few weeks to months if they was no improvement. This broke my
dads heart he made us and his surgeon promise not to take his leg off
he stayed in hospital after the op and seemed to be doing really well
everyone was really proud of him basically learning to walk again .
Due to the op his diabitices was all over the place nearly going in to a
coma , bloodpressure u name it , it seemed to happen to him .
He came out and went for 2 weeks respite care to make sure he was fit
then he came home , althought i am in the care sector i couldnt be at
home 24/7 so we had carers come in and help out on a moriing.
Anyway dad managed to stay home , but we were struggling he fell a
couple of times but remained in good humour . Then his knee started
hurting , doctors where called out they thought it was gout said wait a
couple of days , the carers wanted him to go back into the home
but i stuck by my gun's if he was not better after the weekend he could
go back in but i wanted to see if we could cope dad was quite happy with
this. But on the sunday i wasnt happy with him phone the NHS direct they
sent doctor , the said he had a water infection , a couple of hours later
he was getting worse i phoned 999 . They whipped him into Hospital
he ended up in HDU wires everywhere he didnt wake up for 2 days .
When he woke up he said " where the bloody hell am i " last thing he
remember was the telly on the saturday lunchtime . He was really chatty
and chirpy asking after everyone they moved him on to a ward and then
things went from bad to worse . We were told he had Septicimia .
The next weeks he got alot worse , not waking up to me and my mam and
friend having to buy baby food and feed him as the nurses didnt have time
to changing his bed , creaming his hands and feet , shaving him ,
Then we got told that the septicima had affected his whole body brain
damage , kidney, liver , nearly every part of his body , and that is was
only a matter of time .
We stayed as late as we could , all day long , by his side hoping that they
were wrong , but i knew they werent . My dad died at 66yrs old , he
passed away as a old man should of in his 80's . I will always want to
know why but i know i will never get any answers to why my dad had
suffer years of pain with his legs and feet.
I was soo angry annoyed that nothing could of been done , that for the
past few weeks they seemed to do nothing .
In a way i was happy that my dad was not suffering anymore .
My dad was a great loving kind man whom i will never ever forget
he touched many peoples lives , its just a shame that he died in
the manner he did and the age he did . He and my mam where
looking forward the rest of their lifes together but instead it ended that
day .
Dad i love and miss you soo much ,
Every time i see the football , cricket , rubgy i have a tear in my eye as i
know you love to be sat here with me watching it .
But dad u now have the best seat in house watching from your fluffy
cloud .

My dad was a great man , well liked and miss so much .

GoodNight GoodBless Dad
LOVE YOU LOADS
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